Learning to Say No

It's Okay To Say No

Are you the type of person who always says yes? I've come to learn that it is very important to learn to say NO!! It's okay. People are still going to like you. They may even respect you more because they know you are being authentic. Lol. 

I'm not saying to say no to someone who really needs your help. I'm talking about turning down that invitation that you really do not want to attend or that birthday party that you don't want to be a guest at because it's the same weekend as your accounting review or the seminars. But guys never ever say no to something that you know you have to prioritize in the first place. 

Think for a moment how you feel when you say YES to something that you really don't want to do. If you're like I once was, you can't sleep at night and you think about it way too much. It weighs on your mind. You try to find ways out. You start thinking “okay lang yan, mapapasaya ko naman siya”. “Maybe mag eenjoy din ako. “Maybe I won't be bored”. Whatever it is that you're saying to yourself, if you really wanted to go, you wouldn't have all of these thoughts.

So, why not just say NO from the beginning? Perhaps out of guilt. diba? I am here to tell you that you have to leave guilt in the past. The past is not meant to be part of the present.

Maybe you feel like if you don't show up at the meeting(that by the way, is not a mandatory one) your friend isn't going to like you or your co-members won't respect you. You need to do what is right for you. Of course we do have real obligations in life to fulfill but we do not have to do everything, everyone wants us to do. Do you feel as if you can breathe already, just hearing that?

Maybe you feel like your friend won't call you anymore if you don't lend her money every time she calls and asks for it, even though that's the only time she calls.

Maybe you feel like your bestfriend won't communicate with you as much if you don't listen to his whining for hours and hours on end, about the same thing, over and over again.

Maybe you feel as if your mom, dad or siblings won't love you as much if you don't do everything for them that they ask or attend every occasion.

If these people are your true friends, family members, or a good barkada, they will like or love you the same no matter what. People treat you the way you teach them to, and if you're someone who always says yes then that's what they're expecting.

I learned you can say NO!!

Do what feels right for you. Be authentic. If you don't like a certain kind of music, don't go to that concert. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying don't compromise if someone does something you like and you want to reciprocate. Sometimes relationships need compromise. I'm just saying don't say yes to everything.

Learn how to say no. IT'S OKAY! If a friend comes to you and says, 'Hey, I need P1000.00 until Friday.' Do you give it to them even though you are going to be short of cash and you don't know how you're going to get through the week, and now your bills for tuitions are late? I'm here to say you do not have to.

IT'S OKAY TO SAY NO!!

Depression and Burn out - ways to stop it

Most accounting students  like me seems to be experiencing an epidemic of problems such as depression and burnout.

In my experience as an accountancy student - a president of our class, a member of JPIA  and now as a graduating student who is soon to be a CPA, students like me have  different levels of these problems, from depression bad enough to be actively planning to stop accountancy, to more vague thoughts of whether it is worth going on with it all.

Sometimes it's been more about losing confidence with what they are doing. As I've explored their situations I've found there are 3 key factors to stopping this state of depression and feeling burn-out.

1) Set goals with a pre-determined end point -- Life and study can't just be an endless marathon. You need to have sprints as well as rest periods, and have some finish lines along the way to the top to become a CPA which is the ultimate goal of every accountancy students. Otherwise the only rest you get is when you collapse from exhaustion, and it's better if you can do that on the other side of a finish line.


2) Have a bigger purpose in mind -- Life is not just about filling your days with whatever happens to get your attention, and yet there is so much around to choose from. With a bigger purpose you can select what is important for you, or it can be the other way around, what is important to you can be your bigger purpose.

Now it doesn't have to be an overly grand purpose, like topping the departmental exam or whatsoever. It does however need to be something that brings out the passion in you to help you take the day-to-day bumps and the obstacles that are in your way.

3) Create results that last beyond that day -- This is the most important one in my experience as a student. You need to build some cumulative benefits to the work you do each day. Otherwise every day is starting from scratch yet again, and it will just feel like you are "never getting anywhere", because you truly won't be. 


Each of these 3 aspects are vital. Missing even one of them will give you more stress than you need, and if you don't have any of them then you are very likely to be reading this because you are really needing help, starting with these 3 changes. Begin today and enjoy accounting. 

First Problem of Accountancy Student - Procrastination

"know what to do. I recognize the benefits of doing it. I understand the negative consequences of not doing it. I have the competence and resources to do it. But I still don't do it."

Does this story sound very familiar?

I am sure you will agree with me that we all encounter postponements that keep us from doing what is critical for our success. We cannot always control what happens to us but we can always exercise control over how it will impact us. We do not have to let delays defeat us. We don't have to give into these energy suckers and become a victim of procrastination. In accounting procrastination is one of the biggest problem of students like me. 

Why should we leave ourselves at the mercy of 'The Guilt of the Incomplete'? But first the question arises, why do we do that?

WHY DO WE Procrastinate?

Before we discover a treatment for this universal disease of accountancy students, 'procrastination', let us look at some of the reasons that I realize were behind it. I found these from one of my favorite article from Qaiser Abas.

1. Waiting for the right mood
   You don't feel like doing it. Your mood is o_ and you are emotionally down. Am I correct?
2. Waiting for the right time
   You don't think that it is the right time to take action, when actually it is?
3. Lack of clear goals
   How can you feel inclined to do it when the goal is not clear?
4. Underestimating the difficulty of the task
   You thought doing it was no big deal, but when you started you realized that you would have to put in much more effort than you first thought. So why not postpone it for now? This usually happens in my projects like this one. 
5. Unclear standards for the task outcomes
   You started but did not have an idea about exactly what was expected. You did not know the performance criteria.
6. Feeling the task is imposed on you
   When you think you have to do it, your motivation is reduced. Your heart and mind are not fully involved. Most especially 
7. The task is too ambiguous
   You finally got around to doing it but the task was too vague, unclear and blurred. Then you did not find good reason to continue.
8. Fear
   'I don't think I can do it; if I go ahead I will not succeed.' This is actually one of the worst since 
9. Perfectionism
   'I don't have the right skills or resources to do this perfectly, so I won't do it at all.'

FROM INACTION TO ACTION

After acquiring all the tools, techniques and strategies, why do student not put into use what they know? Why do people choose inaction instead of taking action? We have identified some psychological fears. These fears suppress your inventiveness; your talents and resources remain hidden, undeveloped and untapped. These fears include: 

1. Fear of failure
   If I were unsuccessful, how would I handle the embarrassment? It's better not to show up for this presentation. Let's procrastinate.
2. Fear of success
   If I do it this time, people will expect me to do it again. Will I be able to handle the pressure that comes with success?
3. Fear of the status quo
   If the status quo is disturbed, who knows how the new situation will turn out? Let's maintain things as they are. Why take a risk?
4. Fear of perfection
   If I started it now, I would not complete it until I achieved a level of perfection. Do I have time for perfection?
5. Fear of loss
   If I did it now, I might end up losing out on a few things.

RECOGNIZE THAT YOU'RE PROCRASTINATING

How would you recognize in yourself the symptoms of procrastination?

• Filling your day with low priority tasks from your To Do list
• Reading an e-mail more than once, without starting work on it
• Starting work on a high-priority task, and almost immediately going off to make yourself a cup of coffee or check your e-mails
• Leaving an item on your To Do list undone for a long time, even though you know it's important
• Regularly saying 'Yes' and filling up your time with unimportant tasks

Why you procrastinate can depend on both you and the task. They can often be reduced to two main reasons:

1. You find the task unpleasant; or
2. You find the task overwhelming

Now that you know the symptoms and reasons for procrastinating, the question is how do you crush procrastination? How do you knock it out?

ANTI-Procrastination FORMULA 

This attitude has the potential to negatively impact your results, success and even your entire life. I have read a strategy to defeat procrastination and build results faster.

they call it the IMAN TECHNIQUE. 

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So, accountancy students are you ready to act now? 

The Reason Behind This Blog

To be honest I decided to create this blog only to comply with one of my school requirements but I realized that instead of wasting my effort in just creating an ordinary blog, I better create something that the visitors of this blog will benefit. The main objective of this blog is to help most of the accountancy student to enjoy the said course.

There is no other way to become successful in accountancy other than making it your passion and giving your best to it. For me accountancy is one of the best course next to engineering and law. The demand for accounting students in our economy today is pretty high and we can expect it to grow higher in the coming years.

Through this blog I will share my insights and ideas on how a new student of accountancy can easily handle this course. What are the things that a student of accountancy should do and should not do. I will also try to post some tips and tricks that my friends shared to me. Have a nice day and Godbless